I watched ‘Millionaire Matchmaker’ last night for the first time. This lady seems pretty switched on and she was dealing with a problem we see very often. Many men (and some women) find that their dates/relationships fail over and over again, simply because they are looking for the wrong type of person. So often men will keep going for the type of woman they fancy, rather than the type of woman who is going to be a good partner for them.
On last nights show the gentleman in question complained that everytime he went out with a woman they had nothing in common. They were from different worlds, he said. He wanted someone down to earth, who he could talk to. Then, true to form, out of all the women he could have chosen to go on a date with, he picked an actress/model 25 years younger than himself. Of course, they didn’t get along, they had nothing in common.
There is an old saying “If you do what you have always done, you’ll get what you’ve always got”. In other words, if you keep having the same problems over and over again in your relationships, perhaps it is because you keep going for the wrong type of partner.
If you want to find a partner for life, have a think about the qualities that are going to be important to you in 10, 20 or 40 years time. We are all going to get old and grey one day, so someone whose company you enjoy and whom you can laugh with is the kind of person who is going to be a good lifetime partner. If you are only going on physical attraction and appearance, when the attraction wears off and good looks fade, what will you be left with? Of course you need to be attracted to the person. Attraction isn’t always at first sight. We can all be attracted to different people for different reasons. Try spending some time in the company of someone who isn’t your normal ‘type’. You may be pleasantly surprised.